Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Why Do Black Men Lie?


I've posed a question for which I have no answer. When I started this blog, I was attempting to write about random things that interest me and up until now I've only been interested by music, movies and other entertainment related issues. Up until now, I've been super single and not looking. But it is now 2010 and I have a crush like you wouldn't believe.. That was until I came up with the notion that this crush may have a girlfriend. In an effort not to put all my business on the internet, I'll get to the point. This guy has not once mentioned a girlfriend in the two months that we've been talking so I pray that my suspicions end up making me look psycho in the long run. We shall see...

But this post isn't just about this one crush, it's about black men in general. I can't count the number of times that a friend of mine has complained to me about her "sorry a$$" man that just happens to be black and a liar. I recently had a week off work so I spent most mornings watching shows like Maury and The Steve Wilko Show (SAD, HUH? LOL... DON'T JUDGE ME!)and on these shows there were many different races and ethnicity's being represented. The black men on these shows stood out to me. They were not once proven honest when the results of polygraph tests were given. There was one man who fathered four infants at one time by three different women. He accomplished this by lying to these women. Yes, I thought that these women had to each be hella dumb to get gamed up that tough, but maybe not. Maybe he was just a great liar. Whatever the case, why is it that black men are always two-timing and lying to women? Why is it that one woman is never enough? Should I be asking these questions for all men? What are your thoughts?

Let me know why you think black men lie....

14 comments:

  1. Well, it's not just Black men who cheat, but men in general. But you just asked the billion dollar question, if you ever figure it out hook a sister up with the answer. lol

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  2. I agree with Melinda its not just black men, my husband is white and believe me when we first met, he lied like it was no tomorrow to me on a daily basis. He said it was cause he wanted what he wanted and me too, he lied to try to keep both. I had to teach him to be open with me about everything and we can work through it. He later learned that all his lies came right back to me and he had to tell the truth anyway so why not right then and there? He often refers to himself as a reformed hoe lol. But after four years I can say that we speak openly about the past and the future without lying. Now some men that I know who do lie to there women, I see that they do it cause the women know that they are lying and they accept it anyway just to keep the man around so it becomes his routine to lie to her and any other woman.

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  3. @ Perrilicious- I feel ya. So basically, they lie to get AND keep what they want. It would be nice when they realize their ability to hurt people in the process...

    Thanks for reading!

    @ Melinda - I'm still searching for a much deeper answer, lol. I'll keep ya posted!

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  4. The search for a man that doesnt lie is a hard one. I will say this....if you suspect a lie call it at that point. Don't let it sit and fester. I mean everyone has a built in intuation(probably misspelled that) but anyway: so if you let it ride it will. Confront it at the start..if he won't talk... let him ride...don't waste your time.

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  5. I feel you sister, oh how I feel you.........the answer to that question is???? ....who knows

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  6. first of all everyone lies. You're going off of what you see, but everyone is not like that. Secondly, what's tv is not always a good portrayal of how people really are.

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  7. no i agree, men in general lie alot and for the life of me i cant figure out why, but it does make since that they just want what they want and still want you as well so they just lie to be able to have it all, but hell most women want what they want too but dont go on a lying rampage and hurt who ever they may hurt just to get it. so just because that explains why they might do it doesnt make it less of an impact. men are more than likely to be composive liars than women because men in general are more selfish than women. not to say that there are no selfish women in the world or no unselfish men in the world but in my opinion and what i have observed on this earth men are more selfish and i think its because women gives birth and no matter what that women has to be there for those children she gave birth because she is the one that actually pushed that child into this world so that is why most times when parents are having problems the man separates from the women and child rather than the women separating form the man and child so the mother is lefted to make up for the father not being there and naturally learns how to become unselfish but in most cases the dad never gets that chance, some do but most dont, and thats why you have men lying to you just to get his way because they become use to looking out for number uno and so it becomes about them and what they want at all cost..... sad when you really think about it but its true.

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  8. but when there is a house hold were there is both the mother and father you will notice that the man is not likely to lie "AS MUCH" but then again there are situations were the father is physically in the home but mentally is not

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  10. I hate men. I am sotired of their lies.

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    1. Me too i hate them with all my heart lying bastards. I just don't know why they don"t keep there lying cheating asses single it works better i feel.

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    2. Me too i hate them with all my heart lying bastards. I just don't know why they don"t keep there lying cheating asses single it works better i feel.

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  11. It makes me sick ughh

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