Sunday, August 22, 2010

What Do You Deserve?

This post will be short. I have so many things that I'd like to write about but I will opt not to do so because at this point they seem like complaints. I am making a conscious effort to stop complaining so wish me luck. I did, however, want to touch on something that I think is extremely important. How many of us live lives that we want to change? How many of us want more than what we have now? How many of us know that we deserve so much more? I'm assuming that most of us have these thoughts but I question whether or not we're working hard enough to get what we think we deserve.

Yesterday I went jogging/walking with a friend and I must say that I worked out more than my legs. My brain probably had the biggest work out of all my muscles. We were walking in the View Park area of Los Angeles and there were plenty of beautiful houses along the trail. She and I began acting like children and picking and choosing which houses were ours while imagining our families living there. It may sound silly, but it was a huge eye opener. How many people played this type of game as children, but grew up and never got to see the house of our dreams? How many of us are settling? In all of my daydreaming yesterday, I never once imagined myself in one of these nice homes by myself. I kept mentioning my imaginary husband and future kid(s). That's how life is supposed to be. You know, the praiseworthy American Dream that was once sought after? Why have so many people given up on it and decided to have multiple children out of wedlock? Why do we want more for ourselves, but do nothing to get it? These are questions that I do not have the answer to. I do not expect you to know the answer either but ponder if you will.

I have a couple of questions that you should know the answer to. What do you deserve? What are you doing to get it? I hope you have started to work toward what you desire as opposed to sitting around dreaming about it. I will do all that is within my power to accomplish, both, my career and personal goals. There is no doubt in my mind that I will be a reporter. I want and deserve a nuclear family that lives in a house like the ones we saw yesterday. Remember, there is one difference between us and the people who have the things we want. They figured out a way to get it. I challenge you to develop a plan. Set some goals and feel free to share them with me. Let's get to work people!

Thanks for reading,

Alexandria B.

Friday, August 13, 2010

The Bad Girls Club?

The new season of the popular Oxygen show, The Bad Girls Club, recently premiered and had extremely high ratings according to my facebook news feed. I am unsure what season this is for the television series, but I'm getting annoyed with its concept. The idea of bringing a group of "bad" women to live together and do nothing but argue, fuss and fight is ridiculous. The sad part is that many of us find it entertaining.

I don't have cable or very much interest in the show so I can't be expected to have all these facts straight, but I'd like to briefly share my views based on what I saw from watching bits and pieces of the first two episodes. As a Los Angeles native, I am offended that there is a ratchet stripper from Inglewood (pictured bottom right) that was chosen to represent the West Coast. I also don't understand what the purpose of this show is nor is it clear why so many people love it. So I'm writing to get your opinion while giving mine simultaneously.

This show is a mess. These females packed up the belongings of one of the cast members because they "didn't like her vibe" or in other words she looked better than them. They fist fought within the first 24 hours. They practiced stripper moves during times of leisure. They pranced around the house in panties all day and called one another profane names. I'm amazed that in order to entertain our society, the only thing necessary is dramatic reality shows. Granted, these women don't represent us all so I will not touch on how I think they are a poor representation of women as a whole. They are seemingly doing nothing with their lives beforehand and then they gather in a mansion for a few months to do nothing but party, fight and fornicate.

People actually look forward to seeing this show each week and I want to know why. How is this entertainment? Please don't be ashamed if you like the show but instead tell me what's so intriguing about it.

Thanks for reading,

Alexandria B.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

How Important is Sex?

Below you can watch the latest episode of The Business Report. In this particular video we discuss the importance of sex in today's relationships. Andrea and I had totally different opinions on this topic. She thinks that sex is extremely important and I happen to disagree. In my opinion, sex should not be the focus of any relationship or it is destined to fail. After speaking with a couple of male friends who had great outlooks, I decided to write this post. I have a great female following on this blog so your input is requested as well. Please watch the video below and then read on for the perspectives of a few friends of mine.

So did you enjoy the episode? I sure hope so... After the video was posted, we got a lot of positive feedback and people were eager to share their opinions. One guy wrote the following message to me:

"Sex is important to me, but only if I'm in a relationship. I became celibate last year because I wanted to have a better understanding of what I truly want in a woman, and how much I truly value sex. Casual sex just didn't do it for me. The best sex I had was when i had a strong connection to the girl and just one touch would make her tremble, this is not because I'm that dope in bed but its because the attraction was completely beyond the physical. When done right, it can only magnify how you feel about a person for the better but most times it DOES complicate things where both people aren't on the same page."

All I could say was "wow" in response. I wish more men thought this way. Society encourages promiscuous sexual activity. Musicians sell it to us and we buy it in abundance. So how can we expect people to not think sex is important in relationships? I wish more people would pay attention to what's important as opposed to what we see and hear in the media. Another response I received was from a gentleman that I happen to have a crush on (LoL) and he simply stated he knew that relationships could never work with women who tried to jump his bones early in the relationship. He also went on to say the the larger the focus on sex is in a relationship, the less time it will last. I totally agree. People get bored and cheat for the purpose of finding sexual satisfaction so an emotional connection is necessary.

This topic is so multifaceted and can be looked at from multiple angles. To sum it all up, I still rate the importance of sex in relationships a 3 and I know that the only way that a positive bond can be formed is with the absence of sex for a prolonged period of time. This way, you'll know that you truly care for the person and sex will just be an added bonus.

Thanks for reading,

Alexandria B.